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Anonymous asked: dear nikki,
well basically theres this lad who acts like a complete arsehole just to impress his friends. but the other day he 'fessed up that he likes me, and im totally confused. i dont like him in any way but what if hes being genuine. im quite independent and i block out any negative remarks from people for eg. ive never had a boyfriend so they think i might be gay, but thats just pathetic. i dont need a boy in my life to complete me and im perfectly fine the way it is. i mean its so cliche the way people think, you reach middle school and straight away your expected to have boyfriends. anyway, he said that he was wrong and that he loves me and hopes i do too. not going to go into detail about things, but nikki what should i do? please help!

You said it yourself “I don’t like him in anyway” You’re right you don’t need a boyfriend everyday in your life.  Wait until you find someone you like in everyway.  Politely decline this guy and continue to focus on your education.

Nikki

Anonymous asked: Dear Nikki ,

Why do i always play the role as the stupid girl that falls in love...but this time i fell deep. I mean i thought this was the perfect guy ... i mean our zodiac signs were perfectly compatible.

Insanity is doing the same thing over and over expecting different results.  Don’t use zodiac signs to find the perfect guy it rarely works out.  Follow your gut instinct and don’t let your heart lie to you.  Quit playing the stupid girl that falls in love.  Try playing the smart girl that researches the guy and decides if he is right before falling in love.  Be cautious with who you pick as a partner.  Picking the wrong person could mess up your life for a long time.

Good Luck!

Nikki

Anonymous asked: My ex is annoying that shot out of me!!! -.-"
he is ALWAYS starring at me, if not him his Friends! Then the other day he wanted to talk to me alone. I didn't Want to in the first place... But to see what he wanted so he would leave me alone I went, his friend told him complete lies so I set him straight. Unfornetly my current crush was standing right there! I was bummed because now he doesn't seem as interested. How do I get my ex to GTFO! ?

Tell him you have moved on.  Tell him you don’t want to be friends.  If it gets really bad then the last thing to do is get a restraining order against him.  Ex’s usually back off once they have to go to court due to a restraining order. Be firm and don’t put up with any bullying.

Best of luck,

Nikki

Anonymous asked: HELP! I hate this. I hate myself. I've liked my best guy friend for almost over a year! He used to like me but I found out just a few months ago when he stopped. He has a girlfriend, she my friend & all but now I hate her! He doesn't know , but fuck I hate her! I love him. I love my best friend with all my heart and it kills me. Just hearing him talking about her kills me. He always sees right through me. He's just great. I couldn't ask for anyone better... but with his girlfriend were are my chances? I've alrady planned ou how I would ask him out if I got the chance. But ugh! Basically, can you help me? I hate that I love him. How do I stop?!

Unfortunately I think you should have asked him out a long time ago.  If he is happy with the gf I would do the right thing and not interfere with his relationship.  It isn’t good to fall in love with your best friends because sometimes they see you as friends and not potential bf/gf’s.  I would write this off as a tough lesson in life that you had to learn from and don’t repeat the same mistake. Next time  if you love someone don’t wait to tell them just tell them.  On a positive note though you may get your chance in the future.  If it doesn’t work out with them I wouldn’t wait very long to tell him abou the feelings you have for him. 

Best of luck,

Nikki

Anonymous asked: Hey Nikki, So theres this guy that I like. He likes me back and recently I told him that i like him. However, I found out that he also likes another girl. Thats not the only problem though, he has a girlfriend. What Should I Do ? I've fallen for him Really hard this time. Sometimes I get really depressed because he reminds me so much of my ex. I really like him. Any advice ?

Run far away from this guy.  He has a girlfriend and he likes another girl.  Sure your relationship would start off good but the chances of him liking another girl while being your girlfriend are high.  I’d find someone to give you the respect you deserve.  When you think of him don’t think of your ex or how you would want to be with him.  Think this guy is such a jerk for not being faithful to his girlfriend.  Also it still sounds like you have feelings for your ex.  Remember there is a reason why he is your ex.  I’d start looking for someone new that is better than both of these two guys.  You deserve it.

Nikki

Anonymous asked: hey, i've lost my best friend, she has started hanging around with other people, and its really upsetting me, but every time i tell her, she turns it around and says i am leaving her out and i never talk to her. Please help:'(

Sounds like she is a manipulative friend.  Trust me with friends like that you will never need an enemy.  You will be better off to find a new best friend.  I’d still be friends with her but I’d start looking for someone else to take her spot as best friend.

Anonymous asked: I like a guy, he's one year younger than me. I don't even know how I started liking him.. but I just did. Today, I caught myself looking at him at breaks the whole time. I played a little prank on him and he got really mad. He called me something really hurtful and I was really upset. Later on we are back to normal, just talking. I know he doesnt like me because he trusts me as a sister, he tells me about his problems and funny things, but he just doesn't see me as an ideal girl. He tells me how much he loves his girl and I just don't know what to do anymore.
I don't really know what is wrong with me, I can fall in love so quickly & never let go. I can't let go, I find myself loving people too much. Yes, people, I could be liking more than one guy, I don't like this. I could also fall in love with a cute guy on the streets, Im self conscious of what others think of me, and often I think they all like me. this is so sad, help? its heart breaking.

I would just focus on your education for a while.  Wait for a guy to ask you out or flirt with you.  Then don’t fall in love too fast but let it happen slowly. It sounds like something that you are just going to have to work through.  Hopefully it will get easier in time to control your feelings.

Nikki

Anonymous asked: My boyfriend is being kind of a jerk. We've been going out for about a year and we started to have sex a few months ago, but he doesn't think we're having sex enough. I didn't have my first kiss until I was 19 and I didn't have sex until I was 20 going on 21. I feel like he's not giving me enough time. He also has said rude things, for instance, a few nights ago he told me that maybe I should be in a relationship with a gay guy because I seem to want to hang out with guys but I don't want to sleep with them and then he told me I was obsessed with gay men. His reasoning? Because I watch Glee. What the heck? Last night we tried to have sex, but I have a cold and honestly, I wasn't really in the mood but I tried, but it wasn't working out so I offered to do other things with him and he wanted sex or oral sex but my throat is very sore and I didn't want to give oral sex so he pretty much acted like a baby and refused to talk to me. I told him from the beginning that things were going to move slowly, I have a lot of issues with sex (I was molested when I was a kid and it can bring up emotions when I try to do sexual activities, I'm trying to work through my issues) but it seems like he's tired of waiting. Rushing me won't make me want to have sex more often, it makes me want to close myself off. I am pretty sure he's on the verge of wanting to break up with me and I don't want him to, but maybe it's what needs to be done.

Yes, sex ruins a lot of relationships and if you’re boyfriend doesn’t get on the same page as you about sex then it is going to ruin yours as well.  This guy sounds really rude about it though.  You shouldn’t be pressured into having sex with your boyfriend.  This is a huge indicator that something is wrong and it may be time to move on from this guy.  I think you deserve better than someone that tries to pressure you into sex when you are sick.  This is very selfish and I think that he is just using you for sex. I think you are right.  Now that he isn’t getting it he is going to break up with you.  Let him go find his next victim you deserve much better.

Nikki

Anonymous asked: 145, but alot of ppl say no 1 likes me in rl life, so im afraid it happens online.

I’m sure people like you in real life, as well as online. 

Anonymous asked: Hi, well when im on tumblr, i get really frustrated and worried that no one likes my blog, and everyone i follow get feedback on their stories but i dont, and i just dont understand why.

I wouldn’t get frustrated about this.  How many people do you follow and how many followers do you have?